Why should I care about making my romantic relationship better?

Or: What I wish I knew about romantic relationships in my early 30s’.

Contrary to popular belief, relationships—especially romantic ones—exist to help us grow, period. As souls, we make a contract with another soul, who becomes our lover, to help us grow.  They become our loving guide to find ourselves. This means helping our soul develop and supporting our growth as human beings in this lifetime.

We grow up believing that our romantic partner is there to “save” us, to fulfil us, and to complete us. We watch Disney movies as children, seeing heroes in shining armour save princesses, and we internalize this programming as truth, thinking this is how it’s supposed to be.

Let me tell you how it’s actually supposed to be: A romantic relationship is meant to challenge us on every level. It should present us with endless opportunities to grow, change, evolve, and become a better version of ourselves because of it.

I went through a period in my life after a major heartbreak when I told myself it was easier to be single because I didn’t want to experience that pain again—but my soul thrived through that heartbreak. Looking back, I see how that experience helped me grow and shaped who I am today; nothing else could have done that for me.

So, if you ask me, looking back – would I do it all over again? Yes, absolutely. I am now living a life I dreamed of then, but I had to change the circumstances and people in my life to be able to get what I wanted. The dream job, dream relationship, dream daughter and a doggy in a dream house in a dream location!!

But with everything I know now, you don’t have to chose the hard way. You can learn some of the lessons through an experienced mentor, you can learn tools to make that journey much more enjoyable. You can get educated on the subject and make more informed decisions when it comes to communication, disagreements, discussions.   

All you have to do is chose yourself. Invest in yourself and your growth, there will never be a more worthy place to invest other than YOU, my love. Here is how you do it:

To do list

1.      Go and fall in love! (if you haven’t already)

2.      If you’ve done the above but feel like you’re struggling, approach your relationship from a place of love.

3.      If you’re doing both the above but still feel stuck: call me😊